I first have to mention. You need to make the book of Proverbs a daily read. There are 31 chapters. One for each day. There’s great insight in each chapter that will deal with all of our lives.
Now Proverbs 5 deals with Adultery. Most of us look at this and say it doesn’t pertain to us or I’ll never do that. Remember Jesus changed the meaning of adultery. Stating that if you lust over someone you have already committed adultery. This means pornography. This is rampant in the U.S. among Christians. It’s everywhere on TV, magazines, and movies. So don’t let yourself get into those areas of temptations.
Matthew 5:28 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
This isn’t for people that are committing adultery, but for those who might be tempted with adultery. It’s giving us wisdom into the temptations of adultery. How it might come, and what will happen if you do it. The devil will make it seem so nice. He will make it feel so nice.
Proverbs 5 3-4 (NIV) 3 For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey,
and her speech is smoother than oil;
4 but in the end she is bitter as gall,
sharp as a double-edged sword.
So let’s imagine that you’re having a tough time in your marriage. Seems like nothing is going right. Your spouse seems to be in left field and you’re in right field. Then you have a co-worker that starts to say the right stuff. Things that your spouse should be saying, but isn’t. They listen to you and give you ideas that sound so right. The devil will put people in your way that will be cunning with their words. He will make them look like they really care for you. So he can destroy your marriage and your family. There words will be sweet as honey. There words will be moving and heart-felt, but in the end it will be the destroyer of all things in the marriage. The verse below tells us that the person will bring you down to the death of your marriage. They don’t care on your pain. All they care about is their own ambitions. On what they can get from you.
5 Her feet go down to death;
her steps lead straight to the grave.
6 She gives no thought to the way of life;
her paths wander aimlessly, but she does not know it.
You need to keep as far as you can from temptation. Don’t open the door of temptation by thoughts or actions. Never talk about marriage problems to a person of the opposite sex. If you let the door of temptation to open up. You will regret it. You don’t want to squander your wonderful life. For a person that is leading you down the wrong path. If you are tempted on the internet. Don’t go on it if no one is around. Make sure you put blockers to get into those areas and forget the password. The devil isn’t going to stop trying to get you to sin. He’s going to put things in front of you that you are going to have to say no to. We have to remember that Jesus was tempted in all these things when He was in the desert. So by Him dying on the cross we are freed from these temptations. Ask Him for the power to not be tempted any longer. Her house in the verse below is temptation. So keep you path far from it. Don’t go somewhere or talk to someone that temptation might be hanging around.
8 Keep to a path far from her;
do not go near the door of her house,
So keep your love and purity to your spouse alone and no other. Don’t squander it on someone who will pollute the love you have.
15 Drink water from your own cistern,
running water from your own well.
16 Should your springs overflow in the streets,
your streams of water in the public squares?
17 Let them be yours alone,
never to be shared with strangers.
Always treat you spouse with respect and love. Love them so much that you know every part of their body, desire and soul. Have them be such a part of you that no other person will have a chance to get in between you. If you don’t know your spouse desires, wants, needs, likes and dislikes you don’t know your spouse yet. You will never know everything about your spouse. That’s what is so great about it. Everyday is a new day to learn about them. So don’t waste your time being mad at them. Don’t waste your time fighting. Spend your time getting to know them. Spend your time loving them deeper. I can tell you the truth. That my wife and I have never fought in our whole marriage of 12 years. I’m not saying we always agreed about everything. We just never let it to get to an argument or a fight. It’s called controlling the flesh, and not the flesh controlling you. Never mention the word divorce ever. If you do. You are letting the devil put that thought or temptation into your marriage. Treat your spouse like Jesus treated everyone. Let His love control your marriage. Let their love satisfy you. Even though times might not be so great. Think of the good times you’ve had and how much you love them.
18 May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be intoxicated with her love.
Always remember that when your spouse isn’t around and you are getting tempted by the internet or a co-worker. That God is always watching. His judgment will be harsher than that of your spouse. So don’t let yourself, spouse, and family down by succumbing to that temptation. Tell the devil where he can go. If the temptation is too strong. Give your spouse a call that moment. Tell them how much you love them, and turn away from that temptation.
21 For your ways are in full view of the LORD,
and he examines all your paths.
22 The evil deeds of the wicked ensnare them;
the cords of their sins hold them fast.
23 For lack of discipline they will die,
led astray by their own great folly.
My name is Joshua Schroeder. I’ve been married to my loving wife for 12 years. We have 3 wonderful children. I’ve been in the ministry since 2004. I’ve been an associate pastor, youth pastor, children’s pastor, and van ministry pastor. Now I’m on my new voyage on starting my own church. God is the center piece in our family. Without Him we wouldn’t be able to accomplish the things that we have done. You can find Joe on Twitter @jschroeder5.