Really loving one another

Each morning our family rises at 6 am and we start our day off.  Part of this morning routine includes reading a chapter of Proverbs that coincides with the date and having a discussion around the content of the chapter.  It is then followed by praying over my family and lifting up specific prayer requests.

Having a large family is work, I won’t kid you.  Dealing with 6 kids and the different moods they wake up with can quickly turn into a battle royal.  There have been countless mornings where fights over simple things like who gets what spoon or cereal bowl to who gets to ride shotgun on the way to school become all out wars.  We have attempted to demonstrated and continually discuss how you should treat each other, as well as giving them principles of interacting with others in life.  As with any kids, your words sometimes fell on deaf ears.  About a month ago my wife thought it would be a good idea to include  1 Corinthians 13 into our morning ritual. It speaks of how we are to truly love one another.

1 Corinthians 13: 1 – 13

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.

If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

 I believe this passage covers everything. I can honestly say that I do not love others fully as instructed here.  It’s a struggle.  I have no excuses, but I am greatly challenged and reminded every day as to how I should love others.  Every day since we added this in to our morning reading I am reminded of a different way I need to love those around me.  This is a good challenge and one that has also helped my kids really think through the how they are treating each other, even though it’s only been a month, we have seen changes.  That alone speaks volumes.

Tell me honestly, is this how you really love others?  Do you love your family in this manner, how about strangers, co-workers?


About Chris Goforth

West Coast Hipster Ninja husband and Papa- allowing Jesus to impact every aspect of my life while raising 6 kids, taking photos, being outdoors & playing Settles of Catan. View all posts by Chris Goforth

12 responses to “Really loving one another

  • jelillie

    This passage is one of the hardest in Scripture! Far from being sweet I Corinthians 13 calls for a ferocity most battle hardened soldiers cannot muster. Really! Thanks for reminding me!

    • Goforth's Journal

      Jellie, yes I agree with you, there is much in there that is extremely hard to do on a daily basis. It’s one I am continually working on, even on my best days I can’t seem to do it 100%. Thanks for your comments appreciate them.

  • Jim F.

    Love it – the challenge I tweeted was spurred by sermon prep for this Sunday. I want to be someone who loves fully and selflessly. Good thoughts Chris.

  • Gary

    Your entry paragraph took me instant back to our recent visit with the five-cum-six. Same wake-up routine minus the laudable proverbial Proverbs. With Jellilie, I agree on the challenge of transforming the verses to living with one another. When Popi is aboard, I can step in more like a beneficent uncle, a referee, in the tangle that happens between (and in) breakfast and home school assignments. That’s where a generational father fits best. With or without me, the lessons, the small, small lessons, learned in failing to love after the Honey Oats, still count in how we grow. Participants and observers and referees take these teeny failure and victories into our bosom, our spiritual DNA formation.

  • ThatGuyKC

    That is one of my favorite passages from the Bible. I don’t love people this way, but I’m reminded of the “log” in my own eye when I see the “speck” in others.

  • Moe

    I may be the odd duck here, but I don’t think 1 Cor. 13 is a manifestation of human love. There is no way that a human being can love that way. I believe it to be a manifestation of God’s love. Look at every attribute and it points to the cross. Every single one.

    Now, in the context that it is presented, it looks as if God is saying, “look, you have all these gifts, but you lack love. I tell you what, this is what love looks like” and he goes on to say what it really looks like.

    Then He ends by saying, ” But when that which is perfect is come (Jesus), then that which is in part shall be done away. When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things (speaking of spiritual maturity) For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known” (the glass darkly represents us not being “perfect” in that love).

    God’s love puts our “love” to shame. We should strive for it, but we will never achieve it here on this planet, wearing this flesh.

    By the way, I love what you are doing with your family. You are an inspiration Chris.

    • Goforth's Journal

      You might be an odd duck, but one I always hope comes back.
      I think your right, because we are not perfect and can’t love in a perfect way our loved will always be flawed even in our best attempts. However we should continually strive for it day by day.
      Thanks Moe, just trying to give my family something I never had but really think is needed. I can only hope my kids will embrace my passion for it and continue the legacy I have started.

  • Justin

    This is great ,Chris. You encourage me with your words!

    I do my best to love people as God loves me and I fall short – often. But, that’s part of the goal, right? I mean why live – for anything if we can’t strive to love the way God intends us to?

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