Do the words that come out of your mouth sound sincere? Are they free from deceit, hypocrisy or duplicity?
Are you able to say something to another person that comes across in a sincere tone?
I love sarcasm and I am the king of it in my house. I enjoy watching folks engage in sarcastic banter. A couple of my favorite shows are Saturday Night Live and The Office. To watch what these actors do and how they engage in it has brought me endless laughs. I own every copy of Jack Handy’s “Deep Thoughts” and I have a poster up in my office of Michael Scott. The cynical person inside of me identifies with this all to well.
I tend to find others who have the same traits. I can go head to head in a battle of sarcasm, talking back and forth in the most sarcastic tones. At 40 years of age it’s an easy and all too familiar place for me. Joking around and laugher is an absolute daily necessity for me. Most of the time wherever I am and whatever I am doing I am trying to change things up and have some fun.
There is a down side to all of this. When I am talking at home with my wife or kids, when I am with friends, I’ve found I need pull back and rein it in. When I hear people ask me “are you serious” or “are you joking around”, I know that it’s time to stop. I always have something funny I want to say and sometimes my funny witticisms; have no place in the context of the conversation. I just need to stop, listen to what’s being said and respond with sincerity.
I find that sarcasm is all too common place in our society today. We make jokes about everything and say things sarcastically if otherwise stated would be hurtful or callous. Somehow stating things in a sarcastic or joking way means it’s acceptable to say it even when it isn’t nice. In essence if I am feeling a certain way or thinking something I can say it sarcastically and it will be received better than if I had just come out and said exactly what I thought. In a world where being PC is mandatory I can see why sarcasm has become rampant.
So in regards to men where does sincerity come into play? To be real and authentic I believe it means there is a time and place for joking around. However when you’re having a heart to heart discussion with others; there is no place for it. I believe you can cross the line with sarcasm to the point people will think all you ever do is talk in that way. Soon people aren’t comfortable talking about life with you. This can be very damaging in relationships. Humor has a place, but there are times where it is just not called for. A wise man knows the difference.
Sincerity means being authentic and speaking in a way that shows a genuine interest in what the other person has to say. Put yourself in the other person’s spot. If you were to take what was just shared, turn it around and offer it up as your own story, would you want someone making jokes about it? Would you want someone to be sincere in their response? I am hoping you are opting for sincerity. I know when I am sharing something important with another person the last type of response I want is sarcastic. I want them to respond with care and concern.
I believe as men, its time we stand up and show other men what it’s like to be sincere. Too often we come across being less than sincere. Today is the day where we draw the line in the sand and step up to the plate and talk to others in a real and sincere manner.
How do you demonstrate sincerity?