Today is one of my daughter’s birthdays. She turns 9 today. I call her Ms. J. She is the last of our biological children but 4th in line of all our 6. What a little blessing she’s been since the day she came into our lives.
My wife and I both always wanted a large family, not large like the Duggars, but 4 or 5 kids. I grew up with only a sister who was 2 years younger than me and my wife has two younger siblings. It was one of the things I told her on our first date, that didn’t scare her away, so I knew she was keeper. We both love having a large family, while it does take work, it also has tremendous benefits. My wife attempted to give birth to our older 3 kids naturally and was unable to so they all came via C-section. I was there through all of it, with my video camera in hand. Now let me say, it’s not all men who can actually say they have seen their wife’s uterus, but I have been able to see it and it’s kind of cool. When my wife was pregnant with Ms. J we were told this would be the last baby as her body could not handle any more. We had no problems accepting that. I had secretly hoped I would have 2 boys and 2 girls but I was content with at least having 1 son.
So 9 years ago today our Ms. J joined us. She was and has been a good mix of both my wife and I. She has traits from both of us and doesn’t fancy one of us over the other in that sense, while some of our other children look very similar to us. The arrival of her birth was a great day for all of us, as at that time all our older kids were aware of what was in Mommy’s tummy and were very excited to have another sibling. We were counting down the days till her arrival and soon here she was and we were all rejoicing at her birth and actually holding her in our arms and loving on her. The day we brought her home, my son wasn’t to happy when he realized it wasn’t another boy and asked my wife is she could take her back and bring him back a brother. We had to explain to him no we couldn’t trade her in. Thankfully it didn’t take him long to adjust and he began loving her and protecting her like a big brother should.
Through the years, she’s continued to win over most people with her kind heart and amazing smile. She’s also learned some wicked skills in regards to getting her siblings to do her jobs for her. Despite my many reminders not to baby her, she’s got them all wrapped right around her finger. I just enjoy sitting back and watching it all play out.
Ms. J’s plans are at this point are to finish school, head off to college and join her sister’s in opening their own full service salon called “Sisters”. As she tells us she plans on reading stories to folks while they get their hair and nails done. In the meantime she uses me weekly to practice on, which means, yes I get a facial, manicure and pedicure as well as my hair styled each week. This is actually quite relaxing.
There aren’t words to describe how much I love her and am incredibly thankful God has allowed me to be her Papa. It’s hard to believe that most likely she’s lived half of her life with us. I can’t imagine her not being here in our home, although I know that day is coming. She assures me when she grows up and gets married she will come and visit and let me stay with her. The day I actually have to hand her over to another man, will be a day my heart rips into small pieces. This beautiful young woman has my heart and I hope and pray that I continue to do the very best for her because she deserves it.